What Is Success?
I wrote a very cool piece on what success means to me, and what I think it means when it pertains to the "girl world." The article was written for Harness Magazine and it was such a pleasure to work with their Editor in Chief, Ashley. Harness aims to give readers an unfiltered glimpse of what it’s like to be a woman and I am so excited that I was asked to be a part of their launch.
I am going to attach a small part of the article, as well as the link to Harness' website where you can read it in full.
Success... What is it?
Success is not a contest. It is not a measure of who is better. Sure, you can be successful in a relay race, but it does not mean you won the relay race. Maybe you bettered your time, or you finally didn’t faint afterwards. Both of those things are considered successes, if you feel you have accomplished something. Yeah, maybe someone else technically came in 1st place, but why should that deter you from being proud of yourself? It shouldn’t.
Why do we, as women, feel like success is toxic if it is happening to someone else?
I have been surrounded by strong women my entire life, and the majority of groups I identify with are mainly women. My family is ¾ female, I went to an all-girls high school, I’m a sister in a sorority and my course of study at my school is widely all women (yo, male Communications and Art students where ya at?) Because of this, I have always applauded the women around me. In high school I cheered for the girls who got into their top choice school, even if I didn’t. In my sorority, I always try to show up to whatever event/award ceremony is going on for one of my sisters, even if I was denied membership, etc. I am truly happy for these women to be succeeding. Just because they have accomplished something I haven’t (yet) or something different than me, does not mean I am any less successful. It just means that my success lies elsewhere. Then they will be the ones congratulating and showing up for me.
Read the rest at Harness Magazine.